Today I want to discuss how we speak to ourselves. This is a topic that we have mentioned before in previous posts in many different ways. Though, today I want to talk directly on the subject. I have a little exercise before we begin so, stay with me. First I want you to think about your internal dialogue. What are the words that come to mind when reflecting on how you internally speak to and about yourself? Think about the things you say out loud about yourself to other people. When you talk to yourself what are the type of words you say? What is the tone that you use? Now, I want you to imagine someone else speaking in that same manner about you and to you. Would you want to be that person’s friend?
If you answered “No” with all seriousness, then we may want to reevaluate the words we use in matters regarding ourselves. You should be speaking to yourself the way you speak to someone you love. When you love someone you are patient, you aren’t cruel and you don’t go out of your way to put them down. You are often much more positive. When you love someone you lift them up and praise their strongest parts.
SO, today I want you to adjust the way you speak to and about yourself. We manifest our realities and the words we use can shape our lives. If you say you are awesome you will feel awesome and you will be awesome. Who feels great when they are told they suck? So, stop telling yourself you suck! If it is not ok for other people to say mean things to you why would it be ok for you to say them about yourselves? The words we say we will eventually believe.
We need to start believing the power of our badassness. We need to start recognizing how amazing we are. Don’t wait for someone else to make you feel better or elevate your ego. You can do that yourself. Wake up in the morning and tell yourself you are beautiful. When you start your day tell yourself it is going to be a good day. When you go to work tell yourself you are brilliant at what you do and your job is LUCKY THEY HAVE YOU. Start valuing who you are and how amazing it is that you are even here. Appreciate yourself more and the journey you are on. Look for all of the things to love about yourself and speak well about them- often. For example, if let’s say you love your hair, say it!
We live in a world that tells us we can’t vocalize our greatness and eventually we won’t even tell ourselves how great we are in our own damn heads. I’m NOT talking about lifting ourselves up by putting others down. I’m NOT saying have an ego and look poorly on others. I am saying speak the truth about yourself. I am saying love yourself and don’t be ashamed to do so. There is nothing honorable about burying yourself because you think you don’t deserve to shine.
Our modern society inundates us with imagery and media that convinces us that we are not good enough. It has infiltrated our minds into believing that we don’t deserve anything and anything good that we receive must be a mistake. It is like we are only allowing ourselves to chase the crumbs from our own freaking cake. The cake is yours! You are amazing and everyone is born with their own uniqueness that we are all lucky enough to have in this world. So what if you aren’t rich or any other standard society has set. You are an infinite being that doesn’t require the constraints that have been set upon you.
Break free. How do you break free? For starters, begin by talking better to yourself, about yourself, and end this habit of putting yourself down today.