You are so powerful. I know it might sound crazy but it is very true.  Sometimes I think we have been conditioned to forget our greatness. Through our daily interactions, work, to social media we unintentionally absorb all of this negative stuff that magically gets ingrained inside of us. It convinces us that we aren’t good enough, that we don’t deserve good things, that we are weak…

However, in all actuality, you are perfect the way you are. You are the only one like you. You don’t have to wait for anyone to tell you that you are deserving of love, joy, or the life you have always wanted. If you wait around for someone to suddenly decide you are “worthy” you will never feel like you are enough.

Do you remember when you were a child and how you never worried about what people thought about you?  You never questioned laughing and there was so much love in your heart. Then one day it just disappears. That is your power.  Your power is loving yourself, is being happy, is saying fuck what they think. It is being you, unapologetically.  SO, here is a list of 10 ways to get that power back.

10 Ways to Take Back Your Power

Know Your Value

Don’t wait around for someone to decide your worth. Spoiler alert- you will always be disappointed. Stand up for yourself. Stop letting people put you down or treat you like crap. Leave situations that aren’t good for you. Fight for higher pay at work. Tell yourself you are beautiful. Know that you are awesome without a need for anyone to tell you. PLUS what you say you are you become and how you feel about yourself is how others will feel about you too. So, decide who you are, don’t let others do it for you.

Avoid Negative Self-Talk

The words we use shape our lives. Talk to yourself the way you speak to someone you care about. Now, if you are thinking some self-defeating thought like“Well, I don’t care about myself”  then you are going to need to go back to square one and focus on Self-Love. This is a post about taking back your power! Your power is in self-love and how you feel about yourself. Your power is loving who you are. So, stop putting yourself down, even if you are joking. The more you say these things the more you believe them and the more others will too. Be in control of your own narrative.

Forgive

There is power in forgiveness. You need to forgive yourself for whatever has been eating you up. You need to forgive others too. Harboring this type of negative energy will poison your life. Forgive. This is how you move on to greatness.

Don’t Waste Energy Worrying About The Past

The past is the past. You are not your mistakes. Move on, it’s that simple.

Establish Healthy Boundaries

Know when to say “No”. If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it. If someone makes you upset, don’t hang out with them. Set limits to what you will put up with.

Say “Fuck It” More

Fuck it. It is what it is. Stop stressing about things. Stop worrying about stupid stuff. I know it is blunt but it is the truth. Just relax and let go.

Stop Complaining

I used to be the queen of complaining. Yeah, it was bad. Then I stopped and my life is so much better for it. Sure, no one is perfect and you aren’t going to be happy about everything. BUT by complaining all of the time the only thing you are focusing on is all of the negative things in your life. How can you be happy if you have convinced yourself that everything sucks? If you are complaining all of the time either A. you aren’t thankful for everything you actually do have or B. Things are really that awful. If you are complaining all of the time, take a look at the things you are complaining about and fix the damn situation now.

Decide What You Want & Make It Happen

When you decide what you want in life you are taking back your control. That being said, make choices for what you want and make it happen (no matter how big or small). For example, make the decisions you make in your life for you. I’m not saying ignore others or what others want, only don’t sacrifice your happiness all of the time because you are afraid of what others might think. Make big choices for you too. Decide who you are and be that person.

Stop Listening to the Opinions of Others

Let’s refer back to the segment about saying “Fuck It”. Literally, who cares what anyone thinks? I know it is unrealistic to not consider other people’s feelings towards you and everyone wants to be loved. Try the best you can to not dwell on it, though. Stop letting what people think about you torture you and mold who you are. Be you, unapologetically.

Never Apologize for Being You

NEVER EVER say sorry for being who you are! There is nothing to apologize for. You are you, period.

In closing, recognize your inner power and go be that person you have always wanted to be. You got this!